Always Expect Backup Options - Hard Truth

I want to talk about something that might be a little hard to hear, but it's really important. So, let’s dive in and get right to it.

One thing I've learned over the years is to always expect women to have backup options. Let me say that again—always expect her to have backup options. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s just the way things often work.

Now, what do I mean by backup options? Well, when you meet a woman, and you think things are going well, it’s easy to assume that you’re the only one she’s thinking about. But the truth is, she likely has other guys in her life, or at least on her phone, that could be options for her if things don’t work out with you. And that’s okay! It’s just the reality of how things go.

Here’s why: women, more than anything, are wired to optimize for survival. Some people say women are emotional or act based on how they feel, but I think it’s more about survival. Think about it this way: if a woman’s goal was to keep herself safe and secure, she’d want to have resources, safety, and protection from different people. She might be thinking ahead, especially if she plans to have kids someday. So, she could have men in her life for emotional support, financial stability, or just someone to lean on.

This isn’t about love or chemistry, it’s about survival. It’s why women might keep men around—whether they’re friends, past boyfriends, or even guys they’ve casually dated. They’re not doing it to hurt you or be dishonest, it’s just how they make sure they’re covered, in case something happens.

I’ve seen it firsthand—women have guys they’re talking to, or checking on, just in case. These guys may not even be in the picture right now, but they’re there in the background. And when a woman is with you, she’s still thinking about her options, even if she’s not acting on them.

Now, does this mean that women don’t care about the relationship? Not necessarily. But it’s important to remember that they might not be as emotionally invested as you are, especially if you’re not on the same page about the relationship.

So, my advice? Don’t take it too seriously. Enjoy the time you have with her, but don’t expect everything to be as perfect as it might seem. The deeper you get emotionally, the more difficult it can be if things don’t work out. And sometimes, the harder you fall, the worse the hurt feels.

At the end of the day, it’s just how nature works. It’s not anyone’s fault, it’s just the way things are. Women are thinking about survival, and part of that is having backup options. So, stay aware, and remember to keep your own options open too.

Remember, you attract what you are. Work on your internal value, and you’ll attract the right kind of woman into your life.

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