Do You Really Want a Girlfriend?

If you’re thinking you want a girlfriend, or if you’re someone who tells yourself every day you want a relationship, let’s pause for a second. I want to help you think about what this really means before you dive in. Based on my years of experience and tough lessons learned, being in a relationship isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. Sometimes, it can make life a lot harder than if you were single. Here’s why.

First off, when you’re in a relationship, there’s a lot more expected from you. You’re now the “boyfriend,” which means you’ve got responsibilities. Her work event? You’re expected to be there. Her cousin’s birthday? You’re expected to show up. It’s not just your own time anymore—you’re spending it on things you didn’t even sign up for.

Then there’s the tricky part about desire. At first, things are exciting and new, but once you’re committed, that spark can fade. She might feel like she’s already “won” you, so that competitive edge that kept things interesting starts to disappear.

And let’s talk about mood swings and arguments. Once you’re in a relationship, you’re on the hook for all sorts of emotional ups and downs. She might argue with you, test you, or pull away just to see how you’ll react. It’s like you’re always proving yourself to her, and that can be exhausting.

Here’s another big thing: you might end up putting in way more work than you’re getting back. The more you show your commitment and care, the less she might appreciate it over time. It’s like she starts seeing your kindness as weakness.

So here’s my takeaway: If you’re just wanting a relationship because you want her to want only you, think about whether you truly want all the extras that come with it. When you’re single, you can still find companionship and attraction without all the extra responsibility. Sometimes, the person who’s harder to get is more attractive.

Remember, you attract what you are. Work on your internal value, and you’ll attract the right kind of woman into your life.

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