The Uncomfortable Truth About Female Attraction

I want to talk about something that's a little uncomfortable, but it's important to understand: female attraction is very much about emotions, and those emotions can easily shift from one guy to another. Let me explain.

When a woman is emotionally connected to someone or has a heightened attraction toward a guy, that feeling is not locked in. It’s poachable. What does that mean? Well, if she’s feeling attracted to one guy at a party or social event, that emotional state can be transferred to someone else, depending on the situation and who she’s around. It's like her attraction is in the air, and it can be picked up by the next person who catches her attention.

Here’s the thing: emotions play a huge role in attraction. If you’ve ever been in a relationship or tried dating, you’ve probably noticed how quickly things can change. One minute she’s interested, and the next minute, her attention is elsewhere. It's important to understand this because it means your chances with a woman can shift, just like that.

How Attraction Works in Real Life

Let me give you some examples to show you how this works. A friend of mine recently went out, and he’s in great shape—he’s got abs, looks good, the whole package. While he’s out, some older women approach him. Even though some of them were married, their attraction to him was obvious. One even kissed him on the cheek right in front of her husband! This is how powerful emotions and attraction are. She couldn’t help herself because at that moment, she was drawn to him, and it had nothing to do with loyalty. Emotions shifted, and suddenly, the attraction was with him.

I saw this happen too. I was at a concert, and a girl who had a boyfriend started looking around at other couples. Even though her boyfriend wasn’t there, she felt jealous seeing other couples enjoying themselves. That emotion of jealousy led her to start thinking about finding someone else, even though she was already in a relationship.

Emotions Over Status and Value

Here’s a big truth: emotions will always come before status or value. I know, it’s tough to hear, but it’s true. Let’s say a woman is with a guy who is six foot five, has a million followers, a mansion, and a private jet. On paper, this guy is the ultimate catch, right? But, if she sees a group of guys who are having fun, laughing, and showing off their friendship and energy, she might be more drawn to them than to him—even if he has all that status.

The point here is that a woman’s emotional state in a moment can completely change where her attraction goes. She might be with the “perfect guy,” but if another group of guys is showing more fun, energy, and connection, that’s where her emotions can move to next.

Entering Races You Can Win

So how do you deal with this? Simple. You need to enter situations where you know you can succeed. Think of it like a race. If you're a great sprinter, don’t sign up for a marathon. Stick to the races you know you’ll win.

For example, let’s say a woman suggests going surfing, and you don’t know how to surf. Now, you’re at a disadvantage because the other guys at the beach who can surf will catch her attention. But, if you’re a great weightlifter and you invite her to the gym, you’re in control because that’s where you can shine. You’re showing your skills, and she’s attracted to your confidence and ability.

Why You Need Other Men

This is something I learned growing up. Back in school, the best athletes always seemed to get the most attention from the girls. It wasn’t just because they were good at their sport; it was because they had brotherhood. They had teammates, and that sense of connection and belonging made them more attractive. Women are drawn to that, just like they’re drawn to men with confidence, status, and recognition.

So, as you go through life, remember this: you need to surround yourself with people who can help elevate you. You don’t want to be the lone wolf who tries to go it alone. The more you connect with others, the more you’ll show your value, and the more attractive you’ll be to the right people.

Wrapping Up

At the end of the day, emotions drive attraction. If you understand how quickly they can shift, you’ll have a better chance of winning in the dating world. It’s not about having the most status or being the “best” in every area, it’s about showing up where you can demonstrate your value and being aware of how emotions can transfer from one person to the next.

Remember, you attract what you are. Work on your internal value, and you’ll attract the right kind of woman into your life.

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