What to Do When She’s Hot and Cold

Let’s talk about a situation I know many of you have faced: you’re into a girl, but she’s giving you mixed signals. One moment she’s all over you, texting fast, wanting to hang out, and then, poof—she’s gone cold, leaving you on read for hours or days. Sound familiar? Let’s break this down together.

First, Let’s Understand What’s Really Happening

When a woman is “hot and cold,” it’s easy to think she’s playing games. But here’s the truth: most of the time, she’s just living her life. Women don’t operate on your timeline—they’re responding to their emotions and circumstances. She might be busy, or yes, talking to other guys. The important thing? It’s not about you.

Why It Feels So Personal

Here’s where most guys go wrong. You start caring more about her than she does about you. She can sense it. Your energy changes. Instead of being cool and confident, you start strategizing how to get her attention back. That’s where the downward spiral begins.

How to Stop Caring So Much

You can’t make a woman want you by trying harder. In fact, the more you try, the less attractive you seem. She’ll feel your desperation, and nothing kills attraction faster. Instead:

• Focus on your purpose: Whether it’s your career, fitness, or hobbies, let your goals come first. Women are drawn to men who have a life outside of them.
• Limit your communication channels: Don’t DM, Snapchat, and text all at once. You’re spreading yourself too thin. Set boundaries for when and how you communicate. Example: “Hey, I don’t check Snap often. Text me if you need me.”
• Respond on your time: A man of value doesn’t drop everything to reply. Be the guy who’s busy and hard to reach.

What About Posting Other Women to Make Her Jealous?

I get it—you want to show her you’ve got options. But if it’s not something you’d naturally do, don’t start now. If she sees through it (and she will), you’ll look insecure. The better move? Actually live a life that makes her wonder if she’s your first choice. Actions speak louder than forced snaps.

Pulling Back is Your Power Move

Here’s the game-changer: when she pulls away, you do the same. Not in a petty way, but in a way that shows strength. Let her wonder why you’ve stopped chasing. She’ll respect the fact that you’re not falling over yourself for her.

Keep This in Mind

Women are naturally drawn to men they have to work for. If she’s hot and cold, let her feel what it’s like when your attention cools down. She’ll realize she can’t have you so easily—and that’s when the tables turn.

Remember, you attract what you are. Work on your internal value, and you’ll attract the right kind of woman into your life.

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