Why Men Who Date Multiple Women Get Treated Better

Most men don’t want to hear this, but it’s the reality: men who date multiple women often get treated better. This truth might challenge what you’ve always believed about relationships, but once you understand the reasons behind it, it’ll make perfect sense.

Why Options Matter to Women

Women respect a man with options. When a man isn’t exclusive or doesn’t rush to commit, he naturally maintains an air of desirability. Why? Because women are wired to compete for men who are in demand.

Think about it: if something is rare, it’s more valuable. A limited-edition watch, for example, isn’t just another accessory; it’s a treasure. The same applies to a man whose time and attention are not easily given. Women perceive such men as higher value because they are scarce resources.

The Attraction Formula

Women are attracted to high-value men, and high value comes from both internal and external factors:

1. Internal Value: Confidence, independence, and purpose-driven living.
2. External Value: Looks, status, social proof, and financial stability.

But here’s the kicker: even if you check all these boxes, if a woman doesn’t see you as desired by others, her interest will fade. Women want what other women want. It’s primal. If she has to compete for your attention, she’s more likely to value it.

Why Monogamy Kills Desire

The moment you put all your focus on one woman, her desire for you starts to drop. When a woman knows exactly where she stands with you—when she’s certain she’s “won” you—she begins to wonder if she could do better. It’s not personal; it’s biology. Women are always optimizing for their best survival option, which means they’re drawn to men who demonstrate high status and self-worth.

Once a man commits fully, many stop doing the things that made them attractive in the first place. They get predictable, lose their social proof, and give up the edge that kept their woman interested.

The Power of Pre-Selection

When a woman sees that other women desire you, her attraction skyrockets. This is known as pre-selection. It signals to her that you’re a man of high value, someone worth competing for. And while she might pretend to dislike the competition, deep down, it fuels her desire.

How to Maintain Attraction

To keep her interest, you must embody the following traits:

• Scarcity of Time: Make her compete for your attention by prioritizing your goals, friends, and other interests.
• Independence: Live life on your terms and avoid changing for her.
• Unpredictability: Keep an element of mystery in your interactions. Let her wonder what you’re thinking or planning.
• Confidence in Options: Even if you’re not actively dating others, carry yourself like a man who could.

Conclusion: Play the Game Right

Dating multiple women isn’t about being disloyal or sleeping around; it’s about maintaining your value and understanding how attraction works. Women don’t fall for the man who gives them everything upfront—they fall for the man who makes them work for it. Stay focused on your purpose, remain emotionally strong, and let her chase you.

Remember, you attract what you are. Work on your internal value, and you’ll attract the right kind of woman into your life.

You are not a victim. You are a Headman.

Now it's time that we take the next step to develop you into the man that you were called to be.

Take the next step right here to join us inside this global movement.