Why You Should Let Women Choose You

Hey guys, today I want to talk about something that might shake up the way you see dating, especially for those who hate cold approach. You know, the classic advice to just go up and talk to strangers at a bar or on the street? If that’s not your thing, listen up because there’s a different way to play the game.

Now, let’s think about that anxiety or nervousness you might feel around a cute girl. Ever wondered if maybe that’s actually there for a reason? Maybe, just maybe, it’s a signal that nature’s giving you to avoid forcing things. What if, instead of trying to make a cold approach, you focus on creating situations where women choose you instead? Imagine if attraction could flow naturally, without feeling forced.

Let me tell you a story to show how this works. A couple weekends ago, I was out solo – just moved to a new city, most of my friends were out of town. So, after hitting the gym, I thought, “What am I going to do tonight?” I texted a couple of girls I know from around here to see what they were up to. They invited me to meet them at a bar.

When I got there, one of the girls, let’s call her Cindy, gave me this big, warm hug. Right off the bat, I could feel a vibe of familiarity and comfort between us. Her friend, let’s call her Amanda, saw that Cindy and I were getting along well, and she got curious. You see, for women, seeing a guy being accepted by other women acts as a kind of social “proof.” They feel safer and more interested in a guy who’s already been “preselected” by other women.

So here’s where things get interesting. Cindy and I were just hanging out, sharing some fries, when suddenly, Amanda started getting closer to me. The fact that Cindy was comfortable sitting on my lap must’ve triggered something in Amanda. By the end of the night, Amanda was making moves herself – even pulling me in for a kiss. All I did was be there, be myself, and let the environment do the work.

The takeaway? When you’re out, aim to be in situations where women see you as already chosen or approved by others. Women naturally gravitate to a guy who has social proof. Instead of forcing a connection with a stranger, create settings where attraction happens organically.

So here’s your homework: instead of focusing on how to approach, think about how to set yourself up to be seen as a guy who’s already got social value. It’s about being a guy they choose, not the guy chasing for attention. You’ll find that the vibe is way more relaxed and, in the end, way more effective.

Remember, you attract what you are. Work on your internal value, and you’ll attract the right kind of woman into your life.

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